The most memorable period of a guy’s life is when he dates his sweetheart. It is the period of sweet challenge to get his dream girl to fall for him. I will say it is the most challenging period of his life more than getting millions out of a business. The relationship between man and woman is a special kind of rapport which goes beyond more than physical union. Woman had been always attached to ‘lower half’ or ‘lesser half’ of man which was rippled from the story of Adam and Eve when the latter was blamed for the downfall of Adam. Woman are always seen as a seductive personality throughout the history of man. In advetisement they are being used incorrectly to expand the demand for goods and services produced.

Man on the other hand is seen as a figure that can be depended upon. It could be that our accepted belief that the male prehistoric ancestors were hunters and they have a biological advantage over woman – woman bears the man’s child. Since the burden of child bearing fallen onto woman by nature they were seen as house makers. To hunt animal for food is seen as ‘bravery’ and ‘provider’ – man is eventually seen as the leader of the family. As man is revered by woman he had been misusing that advantage and had become somewhat polygamous. He has no commitment as a result of gratification.

With the aid of technology this defined task of man and woman had changed dramatically. A woman can choose not to bear a child as contraception are available. She is educated and employed – a probable provider for the family. When this defined task lost its boundary the ritual of the behaviour of woman to man and man towards woman has to be re written.

Woman rights had become woman’s need. Who needs strength to carry the sword for a fight as wars are fought by mere touch of a button to launch a missile. The world once conquered by muscle now need a good mind. The very technology that helped man has identified a place for a woman. Woman and man are two puzzle pieces for a complete picture. If you realise this the world is a better place to live.

Falling in love is enriching but maintaining the relationship is the one needs to be looked upon for better relationship. There is no point in repeating your marriage as you are not getting engaged with an angel. It is just another puzzle piece. If a piece does not fit, we need to tailor and trim your side of the piece for a final fit. The essence of any relationship is love. As divorce rate gets tougher we have to get back to love factor to rebond. That was the inital reason for you to make that somone your spouse. To maintain that love you need to do the following:

Respect

Space is an important pursuit in human history. How will you react if some stranger come very close to you? You will instantly back off. It is because you need an acceptable space. Even in our conversation to others we stand apart just to have our space. Wars are fought just to attain space. When you give others the space they require you are actually giving an impression that you respect them.

Though we are living in the same house we need separate rooms to have own pursuits. I am sure your partner has an interest in leisure hours like painting, building a website, or have a love for photography. Create a space within your house to facilitate the interest. Like what she or he likes. By giving ample space to evolve you are giving importance to your partner’s feelings. Nevermind if the interest is not your piece of cake - giving ample space will bring your spouse closer to you as it means you care for him or her.

Help

Do not think your spouse never expect help from you. If you sense something was amiss or there is a change in your partner’s behaviour you need to get to the matter to find some solution. It may be a work related matter or some financial problem. Try to seek out the problem by asking and seek out a probable solution. It is usually those partner who has an independent nature will unlikely to discuss with associate. Bring the problem to light and discuss a meaningful solution. If you can lighten up your partner’s teething problem you are actually lighting up the light of love.

Share Your Problem

If you have a problem honestly share with your partner first. Do not hide anything. When you share the problem your partner knows exactly what is happening to you. An understanding is created by the change in your behaviour pending a solution. Secrecy in a relatiionship between a husband and wife is a factor for friction. Be transparent with your partner. Discuss your work problem and get a probable solution from the person who cares for you. Only a partner will give a solution from the family point of view.

Politeness

Treat your partner with politeness. Even if you are angry try to word out your grievances with politeness. Most partners lost touch with politeness after a long relationship. Taking for granted in coversation is bad for such a relationship. You will be seen as polite if you follow on how to tone your voice and the words you use during conversation. When you are upset it is not always your partner’s fault. It takes two hands to clap. Ponder over what percentage of the matter or situation in hand is caused by you? No one can be perfect but you can make any unfavourable situation between you and your partner ineffective by being polite always.

Sacrifice

Have you heard the pundits of human relationship say that the vital factor for a better relationship is to like what the other person like. This is actually you are sacrificing your likes to this other person. When Prophet Abraham wanted to sacrifice his son for the love of God his love becomes complete. If you just sacrifice anything for your partner you will receive a reciprocal effect and the relationship become very ‘holy’. I will give 4 stars for this tip alone. Try this one with your spouse and tell me in the comments section below your grading.

The Best Spouse

You choice of your partner is a perfect choice as he or she is the best. What was best cannot downfall to lesser than that. The logic of the mind looks for comparison at a specific time. In relationship remove the time period. Despite how good is your neigbour’s partner is your partner must be the best. Give your partner the best spouse award.

Cycle Of Love

In everything there is a cycle. Be it the ecosystem or economics there is always ups and downs. So in love with your spouse remember you are not going to sail a smooth journey. You will encounter strong winds and storm along the way. You need to accept this do not get dismayed by such small and natural stuff. Always remember this cycle of love. Introduce the tips here when you encounter ‘bad’ times.

Remember Happy Moments

The first date is always a memorable time. I am not promoting all relatiionship to precede with dating. What i am saying it is the first time you have felt the moment of happiness when you are entering into a relationship. Wedding ceremony can be your first date in this respect. An eloborate wedding ceremony can be a memorable occasion to fall back to boost up your love forever. Recall the past happy moments of your life with your partner – your wedding event, your honeymoon, your first baby and so on.

Do Not Keep Secret

‘Thou shall not keep secret’ can be one of the commandment for a blissful relationship. When you keep secrets you are actualy giving an impression that your partner is not trustworthy. Do no do this with your partner. Everything is on the table. You are not secret agents but partners.

Undress Your Ego

Egoistic person will not see from other point of view. It is best to see from your partner’s point of view. The ship of bond will sail and reach a favourable destination if you can strip off that ego within you. Sail the ship well and have an eternal relationship with your partner.

Marriage is made in heaven. But eternal relationship is decided by you when you choose the above tips and put into practice.