Dissipate the melting of heart by firehurt
The feeling of hurt is like a fire within you. It burns up your positive attitude of life if it is not checked. The causes of being hurt can be many : Jilt; rejection; fault found; being blamed wrongly; sudden overpowering of harsh words and so on. Whatever the reasons might be for your feeling of hurt emanating; engrossing and drowning in it is worthless for living.
Most people play the record of hurt by self pity. That sensitivity brings a little relief. But such people are like the opium addict; every time he takes the drug he becomes more steeped in the habit. Never be touchy or harbour self pity. Do not suffer in vain as such self-created isolation aggravates the hurt. Nothing is accomplished by silently brooding over some perceived offense. It is best to dissipate the melting of heart caused by firehurt : the feeling of hurt is like fire which burns you up from within.
We cannot go through life expecting everyone to be careful with us. It can never happen. As long there is another person beside you there is either a positive and or negative relationship.
Interpretation
Understanding the other’s position is one broad way to prevent hurt to get through your nerves. Customer fiery remarks to a service provider can ignite hurt feeling towards the staff unless he or she understands the complaint. It is best not to take any complaint or query personally and screen off your sensitivity first and listen to what the other person has to say. Remove all the loud voice or shouting from the screen and listen to what the other person has in mind. When you interpret the unhappiness of others clearly then you will not feel hurt.
Apologize
Clear water is obtained through filtration process. Clear thoughts can be transpired when there is an element of filter between two people. Whenever we face ‘thoughtless’ behaviour from others, let it remind us to be more thoughtful ourselves. Never retaliate with a mean remark. There is nothing uglier in human relationship than a mean streak - the desire to criticise or rebut instanlty. Use apology to filter what the other person has to say. Apology makes the other person to improve his stand from a predator to a good orator. Once this happens, harsh words from the other party are controlled and the recipient of the complaint will feel less hurt.
Extinguish
We are poor listeners. If you do not agree think again any recent event that might have hurt you most. Problem solving is simple but most problems are not solved as we are unable to identify the problems. We go to our shell dwelling on the hurt that someone caused. You are remembering the thoughtless behaviour and unkind words of others but not trying to solve their problem. Rather than spending time to remember the hurt try to find a solution to the problem that initiated the other party’s grievance. Extinguish hurt whenever you remember it and try to find solution to a particular problem.
Write
Writing diary is a good way to divert your hurt through words. You can start a blog on how you handle hurt. As you explore you will learn to manage hurt feelings. You can go to forum. By writing your hearts out you can dissipate the amount of hurt you have accumulated.
Writing a diary or journal can be very therapeutic. Detail writing about the hurt one felt in relation to the events that caused it is essentially a stress relief like opening up to a psychiatrist. When writing as a therapy a person uses both the hemispheres of the brain which enable the experiences to become completely integrated into the mind. The mind has its own pattern building format to reach a probable solution.
Confide
Confide with someone close with you regarding your hurt. Be it courtship problem or customer matter it is best to discuss with close friends or your colleagues about your hurt and can find consolation to your heart. Other person’s comforting words can dissipate your hurt feelings. Perhaps he or she becomes a ready counsellor. He or she can give a good hug.
Touch
Human touch heals stressful life. You can perform a self touch procedure to relief the hurt in you. You can do this by your own hands. At every opportunity wipe your face with your palm and give a little pinch in the process. The face is the mirror that reflects your mood. By releasing the tension of the face muscle you can alleviate to a certain degree the hurt that lies in you.
Meditate
Sit in a quiet room and try to focus on a placid panaramic scenery where you can visualise glassy water reflecting the far away misty mountain surrounding with lush garden. Perhaps a visit to the beach in the evening seeing the setting of the sun can dissipate your hurt.
Travel
Vacacations and weekend getaways can be made part of our living. Vacations are a great way to get families and couples to spend time together away from the everyday pressures of lives. The simple act of “getting away from it all” helps people reduce stress, whether it is for a day or a week. It is not practical to go away every time when you get hurt. Perhaps a short trip fortnightly is a good way to reduce the stress of hurt feelings.
Smell
The use of essential oils in managing our moods and well being had been carried out for centuries. For example, 4 drops of eucalyptus and 2 drops of lemeon oil in a heated candle container or diffuser can be used for mental fatigue. Lavender, Chamomile, Citrus, Rose, Mint and Ylang-ylang are popular stress relieving scents, If you find it a big fuss using essential oils you can simply use your favourite perfumes to start a fresh day. 
Music
Music can affect the body in many health-promoting ways, which is the basis for a growing field known as music therapy. However, you can use music in your daily life and achieve many stress relief, particularly hurt feelings, benefits on your own. One of the great benefits of music is that it can be used while you conduct your regular activities so that it really doesn’t take time away from your busy schedule. Listening to classic rock music like by Deep Purple provides a wonderful backdrop for your life thus evapourating feelings of hurt.
Massage
Having a good massage acts also as a therapy to relieving hurt. When we think negatively our body will also respond to that. Hurt not only melt our heart but also causes strain to our body muscles. Go for a good massage to dissipate the hurt within you.
