Have you seen a mimosa plant? I love to play with this plant during my chilhood days. I had an enjoyable kids’ life and I am always gratitude to my surroundings for that. Even now whenever I had the opportunity to rest on green pastures I look out for this sensitive plant which closes upon a slightest touch.

A highly sensitive child is born with a nervous system that is highly aware and quick to react to everything. They grasp subtle changes, prefer to reflect deeply, and generally behave conscientiously. They are overwhelmed by stimulation, sudden changes, and the emotional distress of others. They are active, emotionally intense, demanding and persistent. Being outspoken and fussy or reserved and obedient, they are sensitive to their emotional and physical environment.

The question is how not to feel sensitive anymore? It is because like hurt being sensitive does not give you happiness. Your mind ‘brawl’ over the things said about you and that is in your definition a ‘personal attack’.

All sensitive people put all and everthing in their mind. They took everything very deeply and try to justify what had been said and happened. This is where the problem lies.

Interpret Don’t Investigate

You did not do well – you have to do this way – you look like a jerk -  you did not do the presentation well – you are a loser – you are not doing your job – the boss is not happy with you – all of these words can become ‘killer’ statements to a sensitive person.

The problem is not you but it lies with the other party. They do not know how to communicate. They chose wrong words and actions. In the end, you will drown in the ‘sea of distress’ if you’re not careful on how to interpret what others say.

You do not have to feel like you’re being ‘hanged’ by their judgements. Who is judging anyway? It is just another homo sapient with built in neurons and emotions. You cannot come to a conclusion that what others say is what others see in you. You are not the destiny of others description about you. Yor’re perception of your ‘self‘ is important.

One is better than the other is because the mind compares when coming to a decision. It also does not see the good things in a person. It is biased and has always been a ‘blame boy‘. Filter out your negative interpretation by not seeking the reason behind the other party’s objective of action and remark. If what you’re doing is wrong then in what way the other person method is right?

Write A diary

Our ancestors who lived in caves had the habit of writing and painting on walls. What does this show? Simply the early man relates his experiences in picture or writing. It can be a form of releasing ‘stress’ from an unsuccessful hunt by way of writing. Write out a daily diary. You can blog too!

Put a positive note on every ‘negative’ thing that had happened to you in a day. Rather than imprinting those events on your mind, write it down to manage those emotions. For example, if someone said ‘can I trust you’ it does not mean they didn’t trust you. If just meant that they trust you whole heartedly and needs your understanding in the future. Write it down.

Listen To Sentimental Music

If you don’t like to listen to wrong words then listen to sentimental music. Music is found in every known culture. Sensitivity and stress are interrelated. If you have become sensitive over somebody’s actions and words then it becomes very stressful if sensitivity is mishandled. Individuals with coronary heart disease have the tendency to become distress. Music listening may have a beneficial effect on blood pressure, heart rate, respiratory rate, anxiety and pain in persons with coronary heart disease.

Learn A New Skill

You can try to learn a new skill. for a start you can learn how to build your own personal computer. You can learn how to repair a washing machine. You can take up a driving licence to boost your ego!

When learning a new concept two things happen. Your mind focuses on the new skill and when you achieve it you will feel good about your self. The next time you feel like crying over someone words or actions look for more opportunity by learning a new skill. You will feel good about your self.

Good Deed Checklist

Take a good look at your self at the end of the day. What have you done today to feel good about your self? Have you guided someone who had lost his way? Have you donated to someone who asks? Have you helped the blind man to cross the pedestrain crossing? Have you helped your colleague to sort out the difficult situations they may face at work? Have you made someone happy? Have you bought those things your wife requested you to buy? Have you solved your childrens’ problems?

Your contribution to others is what makes you a better person.

Basically, we are sensitive beings. Many are over sensitive than others. Try out the above 5 tips and your opinions are welcomed here