Human mind is by default ‘a wandering mechanism’. Study shows that a human being feels happy on 3 occasions: making love: in conversation with people and exercising. They were least happy on 3 occasions: resting; working; or using a home computer.

Psychologist Mr Killings carry out the study worth who developed an iPhone web application. It supposed to trackback 2250 random volunteers to state how happy they were, what they were currently been doing, and whether they were thinking about a current activity or something else that was pleasant, neutral or unpleasant. The subject chosen from 22 general activities: such as walking; eating; shopping; and watching television. On average the minds of respondents wandering 46.9 per cent of their time, and no less than 30 per cent of the time during every activity, except making love.

“Mind-wandering appears ubiquitous across all activities,” says Killingsworth, a doctoral student in psychology at Harvard

In Conversation

If you think about it, there is some truth in Kinngsworth study. It is also interesting to note what kind of activities we can choose daily for being happy especially on Labour Day. I am not going to touch on making love. However, I will touch on something that is non-pornography: that is in conversation.

In Singapore, the living environment is rather alienated. I live in a housing flat comprised of four apartments: all family except one that is vacant. I have not seen this family since the day I moved in to this apartment. That was twelve years ago. Even though I have, three families to make a connection, we had been always busy with work and our own private lives. Therefore, my option to ‘live chat’ is out of the topic. We trust our own family.

Is man a social animal? He has to otherwise; he will not feel happy living. I was a sociable person at an early age. I got this memorandum in my primary one report card, which says I am a sociable person. It is quite spontaneous response of my behaviour when I am at public space. I have noticed that once I am into a function or an event I am an autopilot in conversation. I just speak my mind out.

Attend The Royal Wedding

When I watched the royal wedding of Prince William with Kate Middleton live in television, I wished I attended with my family. However, Prince William does not know that I even exist in this part of the world. That did not stop me from doing a pre wedding video of the royal wedding in you tube here.

The next time I attend another wedding I will very much imagine that the bridegroom is a prince and I am attending a royal wedding. You may think I am nuts. On the other hand, there will be much conversation with others present. You can talk about how fabulous is the bridegroom attires is. You can exaggerate how beautiful is the wedding stage is. You can speak about how exotic is arrangement of food and beverages are. You can show how beautiful is the door gifts are.

Every wedding I have attended so far is boring to my mind. Therefore, for now I will want to appreciate the beautiful things around. It is a kind of hypocritical and I do not have any choice. May be you can spot David Becham attending the wedding. You can start a conversation that you have seen him alighting with his ‘haunting’ wife in a BMW just now. ‘Are you crazy?’ people might reply. I will stay as a positive liar and defend my statement. I will reply, “No it is true, I have seen them after Royal Prince Sultan Hasanal Bolkia’s family departure” from the wedding scene.

“You know the bridegroom is a soccer player for the Singapore national team and he got affiliated with David when he visited for a group play with the England team recently?” That sounds more common sense. Moreover, the bride was a college friend of Bolkiah’s daughter. That sounds truthful.

What is about the wedding food? I do not want to be shy about eating. I will be a tactful eater. I will not eat alone. I will find a person who is ‘fat’ and alone. I will approach him with a hypocritical greet and a cynical smile on my face. “Will you like to join me for a bite”? I do not flirt with woman because I do not want to create a stigma among the ‘celebrities’ attending the wedding. No, I just attended the last wedding. My wife was not present. I was able to get the attention of four women in their mid-30s and held a conversation until I got up to move. They were tongue tight. It is because they were mesmerised simultaneously about my conversation with them. Well that was very rude of me doing to women.

I will describe the taste of the food after every delicacy. However, I will post a question to my ‘eating’ partner first. If he is unable to put the taste in words better, I will help him to do so. Wow, I am still in conversation. It is better than Facebook or Twitter.

To tell you the truth I did not even enjoy my own wedding. It was boring. I had to wear that ‘stuffy’ outfit they call it a coat. In my mind, I was thinking ‘can I wear this every day?’ I had to wear that throughout the day! That is why I was frowning in my wedding pictures. I was too tired after the wedding and I slept right through that night. I hope my wife did not suspect of my love for her that night. You know what I meant?

I am too serious about anything. You know I have attended some wedding and they place tower made of empty glasses. The tower ends with a ‘lonely’ glass. Champagne poured onto this ‘lonely’ glass until all those glasses below it filled up in a cascading effect. This kind of culture is actually a borrowed one. It is not original. Well people are copycats after all.

Oops! I have to see the brighter side of things in a wedding and be in conversation. Wedding is factually a happy occasion.

Final Touch Up In My Conversation

I have seen a very creative wedding a year ago. In that wedding, a media was engaged to interview the visitors. The visitors were stunned initially but said some best wishes to the couple. That was creative.

Finally, I will want to in conversation with this royal wedding by presenting a gift to the couples. It is usually an envelope with some money in it. My God, this is good business. However, there is no problem here because the ‘market’ trend for such token is now kept at $50/- each for the bride and the bridegroom. Only in this part, I have to think that this is not the royal wedding.

I will eloquently wish the bride and bridegroom to stay happy, healthy and wealthy throughout their married lives. Naturally, I will join them with photo taking and tell my wife the couple looks lovely audibly. The couple might hear my good words and they will feel satisfied that they have done a good job.

Now I know why many people love to attend a wedding. They want to be happy for that moment of happiness. Well it is a worrying trend that couple are not getting married. We have to be happy divorce rates are up and likely, they will get married again. 

I can attend the royal wedding to stay happy again.